Everyone wants a good relationship with his spouse, The trick is, how do you actually accomplish that?
My husband and I tried a number of things to have a great marriage…books, conferences, counseling to name a few. There was good information out there, but its helpfulness was limited.
After studying time management, where you learn an idea is just an idea until you put action to it, I set a goal of putting action to my desire of having a great relationship with my husband. This is what I came up with:
- Spend time together once a day.
- Spend time together once a week.
- Spend time together once a month.
- Spend time together 1-2 times a year
Possible daily activity:
- Sit on the couch and talk (I will do a separate blog on how men can effectively relate to their wives.). We usually have a glass of wine or a cup of tea.
- Double Solitaire (rules later)
- Short walk.
Possible weekly activity.:
- Movie (at home or at a theater)
- Dancing (haven’t tried it yet, but I think I can talk him into it.)
- Dinner out.
Possible monthly activity:
- Overnight away from home.
- Spend the day away from home.
Once we started spending time together, especially daily talking time, lots of problems eased. I think part of our problems when we were younger stemmed from the fact we didn’t know how to spend time together and arguing was the only way we knew to connect. How much easier and fun life is now…it is Lifeasitshouldbe.
Play with the same rules as solitaire, except put all the piles of cards, starting with the aces, in between. Both of you can play off the ace piles. It becomes a competitive game of speed. If one spouse wins most of the time, you can tweet the rules a little. I remember bursting into tears after too many loses because my husband was always winning. He was much better at strategizing.