I have been a full-time housewife for 40+ years. You would have thought I would have figured out how to run a home during that time, but I didn’t. Why?
I always had an excuse for not being able to do it.
These are a few:
- My husband’s habits.
- Small children.
- Older children.
- Elderly parents.
Then one day, as I was sitting in my easy chair, after the kids had long left the home, my elderly parents had died, and the last dog died, I realized I still wasn’t running my home like I wanted. I had no more excuses. I looked in the mirror and said, “I have met the problem, and the problem is ME.”
I started taking time management classes with Sarah (link) and I started seeing the problems with how I had been structuring my work. To begin with, many of the household systems have no structure to it. Several people I followed said that if you have 15 minutes, do a 15 minute job. All you have to do is figure out how long a job takes and then fit it in the time slot. There are big problems with this system. One is that the time a job takes can vary a lot. For instance, I can clean my bathroom in 1 minute or 15 minutes, depending on how thorough of a job I do. The second problem is how to decide what to do next. This is called the problem of choice. (Ted Talk on paralyzation of choice.) Should I wash clothes, or should I vacuum, or should I organize a drawer, or should I make soup? Not knowing where to start can end with frustration and as a result, just sitting in a chair with social media.
Science shows that the brain gets tired making decisions, any decisions. That is why Steve Jobs wore the same outfit most of the time. He saved his brain for more important matters. The more you can train yourself into habits that work and develop routines, the fewer decisions you have to make and your brain can use its energy doing creative things.
From Time Matters, I learned how to build habits that work and make sense. The are easy and straightforward. I love helping people find the life they always wanted by helping them apply time management principles to cooking, cleaning, gardening and having good relationships with family and friends. I help others make Lifeasitshouldbe.